I had a gathering of internship colleagues on Saturday.
We met each other while in the bank during my 2nd year of uni in 2000 and kept in close touch ever since.
Gosh, almost 8 years…
One of my friends joined after graduation and has been with the bank for 6 years I think. In today’s generation, that would qualify for long service award already. Clap, clap, clap.
She is representative of today’s Singaporean Woman: Smart, Attractive, Professional – a typical yuppie (pardon my inclusion of this overused term).
Her confession was very frank and stark.
“I feel that I can live without a man. I can provide for myself, do the things I want to do and live life to the fullest.”
Not that she did not have a bf. But since he was based for some years overseas, then to me it did not really qualify as a relationship as both parties agreed that it was an “open” one (free to date others).
So without any commitment, there is no real basis to begin with.
Plus she did not want any kids.
“No children ever for me. I admit I’m selfish but that’s me.”
Rewind back to the good old days when men were the breadwinners, providers and head of the household.
Education, equal opportunity, and meritocracy in our developed nation has led to more females than men in our tertiary institutions, as well as more girl-power in the boardroom.
This has led to much balance of power between the sexes, from the office to the home.
Husbands nowadays share the household chores with the wives, and take up a greater role in raising their children.
To the extent of building family cohesiveness and bonding, that is well and good.
But when it crosses the line and women’s core responsibilities of being the mother, wife and homemaker are relinquished and given up for corporate ambitions, I feel that the natural order of the sexes has been turned upside down.
And many women are challenging this norm and saying that they can be successful in both home and workplace.
They say they can be a top CEO or top whatever as well as raise a family and be a good wife.
We all have 24 hours.
That is the only fairness that is equal to every living person on this earth.
So there is no such thing as putting both work and home as top priority in one’s life. Either one has to give way.
Your maid cannot substitute for a real mother’s love. Your affection and support for your husband is just not the same over the phone or email. Home cooked food with the touch of love always tastes exceptionally fantastic.
It’s not quantity time but quality time, some may argue.
Yeah, try to spend “quality” time with your loved ones with that merger and acquisition on your subconscious mind.
You may be physically present, spending time with your children and husband. But that’s about all.
Think about it.
Sleep over it.
At the end of the day, it’s my friend’s life, and it’s your life.